Girls Night In – Lingerie Party

05. Aug, 2010 Categories: Intimacy in Marriage, Women Talk by Sarah Baron 12 Comments

A Surprise One Night From One of the Ladies

During one of our A8 dinners, the hostess invited over a friend of hers who sells lingerie and, what shall I call them, but “toys.” The lingerie was beautiful, and we all encouraged each other to take some time and energy to wear something a little feminine underneath our clothing. As one of the women explained, “sometimes I wear something lacy for the husband and sometimes I wear something pretty just because it makes me feel better and more feminine.”

And then came the non-clothing items. There were all sorts of devices. There were things I had never seen before. They were all pretty, some were non-descript, and others were plenty descriptive. Anyways, we kind of picked up each item and discussed them – one by one. Some of us had seen all of this stuff and others had never seen any of it. We found the whole evening to be an education’s equivalent of a college course.

“This one is a vibrator – oohh, it seems really strong. (She had turned it on.) Be careful of this one or you may end up having to peel yourself off the ceiling.” Laughter… Anyways, the vibrators came in all shapes and sizes from purse size models to things you could put on your coffee table that no one would ever figure out what it was. Large eyes all around as we went through every item.

There were dildos and the Rabbit made famous by Sex in the City (in a newer and more improved model – who knew there were upgrades in this department) and pasties to hide nipples under shirts and dresses and lots of other items, including chocolates and massage oils and specialized candles. What amazes me is how many ways there are to be creative with your other, especially if you can get up the guts. And what is your other going to say? Forget it? I don’t think so.

What was amazing about this evening is that it was safe. We could look at all of this stuff and discuss it and its purpose and what works and what doesn’t in the privacy of our very own home. And encourage each other to step out of our skin and go for the new and the different.

Oh, and one more thing. Is there a husband out there that would discourage his wife from going out with her friends to a party like this? I bet he’d happily take care of the kids – and the house – and the bills – and whatever else is needed so that you had time to attend.