We Ask Several Men How Their Wives Make Them Melt…
After the success of our first compilation post, What Real Men Consider Sexy, we thought we’d try it again every couple of weeks. This time, we thought we’d ask men what their wives do for/to them that makes them melt. These answers are not what I would have predicted…
Darren Rowse of Problogger Blogging Tips and FeelGooder: Tips for Life:
I think for me it is when she does anything out of the blue that makes me realize she’s been thinking about me.
That might sound like I’m easy to please but we live in a world where everyone is so busy racing from one thing to another and where we tend to become so self obsessed. So when someone takes a moment to do something that shows you that they’ve been thinking about you it makes an impact – particularly when that person is as crazy busy as my wife.
I’m not talking about big things – it can be anything from bringing me a coffee from my favorite cafe, to a card, to booking us a surprise dinner, to suggesting I have a Saturday to myself to go to the football etc.
Paul Byerly of The Generous Husband:
What makes me melt is that my wife believes in me and my abilities. Sometimes when I am struggling with something she will say “You’re smart, I now you can figure it out.”
Dustin of EngagedMarriage:
While most of the typical sexy come-on stuff works on me (surprise night alone, wine awaiting my arrival, whispers in the ear, etc.), I’d say the thing that my wife does that really makes me melt is say “thank you.” I’m not talking about the polite “thanks” when I pick up something that she dropped, but a sincere moment of gratitude for being a strong husband and father. When she lets me know how much I’m appreciated, it truly touches me and brings us closer in very intimate way.
Adam of DadaRocks:
When my wife goes beyond – its just makes me say ahhhhh… like plans the night out – makes arrangements for the kids with my folks (her in-laws), makes the dinner reservation, cleans the house. And then I come home to this hottie dressed to the 9′s who’s like beers in the fridge. Dinner is in an hour, take a shower -we’re going out.
Sometime taking charge and taking the pressure off makes it all so much easier to focus on them!
Eric from BetterHusbandsandFathers:
One thing that my wife does to make me melt is to take care of me. She always know what I need (even when I don’t). For example, just today she knew how tired I was, so she made it possible (i.e. watch both the kids) for me to take a 3 hours nap! I would never have taken a nap on my own, but she knew it would help me feel better! It’s this kind of service and thoughtfulness that make me melt!
John, the DaddyYoDude of TheDaddyYoBlog:
The one thing my wife does that makes me melt more than anything is what I call simply “the soft kiss”. After a long day at work, a rough night with the children, or just because. The soft, sweet, gentle kiss is a sure fire way for me to forget everything, and feel love. I can be free of worry, free of pain, free of sadness, with just the simple meeting of our lips in a soft gentle embrace. There is nothing better!
Tony of OneExtraordinaryMarriage:
There is a gamut of little things Alisa does that makes me melt. It can be from cleaning the bathrooms (my love language is acts of service) to initiating sexual intimacy. There are many in between as well. What I have learned over the years is that I was missing so much of the good things she did for me because I was looking for the one BIG thing. Now I look for the little things she does every day that makes me melt.
Well, I found these answer to be different than I expected. Nothing about slipping off clothing. More about doing things, taking action to make them feel loved and cared for. Interesting, don’t you think? Anything else you’d like to add?
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And this is why my husband doesn’t blog… he would have said-
Her laying naked in bed. period. dot. period.
Not all this cute sweet stuff you guys said… boo
Thought this was a really funny response on Twitter…
WINECOWBOY 3:20pm via Web
@a8forwomen @daddyyodude Simply put what men want is…Show up naked & bring beer. We are simple like that & don;t ask for much.
so true and great article!
a great steak helps also !!! lol
I love this post. My husband and I have a great relationship but I think it’s a great reminder of simple things I can do to continue to let me know every day that I love him and I think of him often.
My man has been forgetting words lately, ( He’s 69 and Dementia runs in his family): Well, as you KNOW, men have egos, so I was at a loss, there, not sure what to say or do. Then I remembered that he loves the New York Times Crossword puzzles, so I ordered a book of them on Amazon.com. He’s thrilled, and so am I. I’ve noticed that his vocabulary has improved and so has his memory.
It’s nice reading other people’s experiences.
Wow-these men notice everything!
Insightful article. After reading it I came across Gary Champman’s “The 5 Love Languages”. He has found that we have a primary way of expressing and interpreting love:
1. Words of Affirmation – The Generous Husband, Engaged Married
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service – Pro Blogger, Dada Rocks, Better Husbands and Fathers, One Extraordinary Marriage
5. Physical Touch – TheDaddyoblog, Shelle’s husband!
There is a little pop quiz you can do on his site http://www.5lovelanguages.com There is one for husbands, one for wives and even one for kids. A bit of fun!
This is so sweet it made ME melt. Awww it’s nice to see these wonderful women are loved and appreciated by great husbands!
I guess the key is to study your husband, know his love language, and learn the things that mean the most to him. We can make the most impact if we study and then take specific action. The responses from the men make a lot of sense. Men are more action centered and when they see those actions play out they are thrilled. This is a great post!
Charesia,
I think that is a great comment, especially the part about studying him, learning his love language…
Sarah
I too thought it would be more sexual in answers. Or at least freezing the guy in a block of ice and turning on the hair blower
I am surprised to find so many romantic answers. I expected the her in a whipped cream bikini response.
I just stumbled into this website today as someone started following me on twitter. I must say, I’m somewhat impressed at what I’ve read so far. I just thought I’d take a few moments to reply to this article. Although it seems, most of the men weighing in within the article, are bloggers whom write about similar topics, I’m wondering where the input is from other men?
Although I’m presently single, and this may not be what you’re looking for, I thought I might offer you something from the male perspective, from a man not blogging about similar topics. Here goes.
Throughout my life, I’ve found that the things that melted me the most, were a woman whom believed in me. I cannot describe the utter comfort such a woman gives, nor the treasures it holds, when I’ve been at my worst and lowest times. To me, there is nothing like a woman who truly loves you despite your faults, despite your worst fears, despite the time you feel like nothing. To me, the most precious gift has been the times I was at those points, and the woman I was with loved me enough to show me, through kind words, and gentle reminders, that I was more than I thought I was.
Even the strongest of men loose their way at times. Moreover, I’ve learned that during those times, any woman that loved me enough to remind me those things, totally melted all of it away. Those are just my thoughts and two cents on the topic.
Keep up the good work ladies, and the men that contribute as well. I’m sure I’ll be back again to read more as time allows.
I have to totally agree with Paul Byerly; he is where I got a reference to this site too. It seems to me that Dustin is saying about the same thing. A wife’s belief is perhaps the greatest power that comes to her husband that makes it possible to go into the world everyday and face the dragons, so to speak. Comes back to the scripture ( I think in Ephesians) that tells a wife to respect her husband. I could look it up; it is well known and I’m sure Paul knows where it is.