Valentine’s Day Resolutions
Valentine’s Day is great! It’s fantastic! It’s commercialized! And therefore, it can seem a little disingenuous.
It’s time to take it back! Make it really yours!
After all, why is it that there is one day a year dedicated to celebrating love and romance, when, frankly, your anniversary serves that purpose?
So, it’s time to rethink things. I’m not saying to stop buying lingerie, chocolates and flowers. That would get me in serious trouble.
Instead, I’m suggesting that we all make some jointly created and jointly executed promises to your marriage on this day. Instead of New Years Resolutions (which aren’t my favorite), replace them with resolutions made for the benefit of your relationship.
Make It Last Longer Than One Day
Here are several examples:
- If money is tight, take the money you would spend on Valentine’s Day “special” overpriced menus and plan to go out twice on a date over the next two months. You’ll save money and can extend one night’s romance into two.
- Pledge to go out on a date once a month (or week).
- Try something new as a couple like skydiving or cake-decorating or my personal favorite – take a standup comedy class together. Just pledge to try something new – together.
- Agree to try some new stuff in the bedroom. TALK about it. Tease each other a little.
- Pick two dates a year when you exchange handwritten letters telling each other what you love about each other.
- Tell each other you love each other once a day.
I’m not suggesting that you forget about Valentine’s Day. Just TAKE IT BACK! Make it your own. Make your marriage better because of it. For longer than a day.
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I completely agree! Great post! Thanks.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreat Post. I just posted about Valentine’s Day on my site. 2 Words: Be Romantic. It doesn’t take a lot of $$$ to get creative and to make them smile. http://www.bbetter.me/2/post/2011/02/be-romantic.html
Thanks Phil.
Sometimes I get annoyed with everyone trying to get you to buy something or feeling like you have to follow the norm or the checklist. This way, you make your own rules. Know what I mean?
Sarah
Yes…not that I didn’t buy my wife some new earings when I flew through Phoenix last month (had our honeymoon there)…but there is something more beneath it all that we seem to miss when whatever-the-next-holiday-is signs appear in the malls the day after the one before. You know what I’m talking about.
Taking back Valentine’s – part 1 – I read your post Sarah, and said to myself, none of that stuff on the checklist matters unless it’s really happening there at home and in our hearts where it counts most on any given day.
Inspired…yes. Yesterday, I re-arranged the sleeping arrangements at home (with Mama’s blessing) so our near two year old little girl can finally have her crib NOT in our bedroom. Enough said.
THANK YOU!!!
Taylor,
Interesting you bring that up. For a guest post I did a long time ago, I spoke with the A8 about this issue of kids in the bedroom. EVERY single one of the women I brought it up with shook their head (meaning no) when I asked their opinion. Not one of us thought that was a good long term help for a marriage. And we don’t agree on much. Hmmmm….. sounds like a future post to me…
Sarah