Make His Day
Well, when I thought of the idea for this post, it made sense. After all, it is the reciprocal to the post, The 14 Sexiest Things a Guy Can Say to His Wife. I started thinking about what to wrtie. And that’s when the trouble began.
This post has been INCREDIBLY tricky to navigate.
First, I’m not a guy. Solution? Ask your guy friends. I did. Each of these is either contributed by a guy friend or else guy-approved.
Second, some (okay, a LOT) of the things a guy thinks are not really regularly, shall we say, articulated on this site. How, then, do you get down to what guys really think? So, here’s what we are going to do . We are going to start today with the basic version, the PG version. Tomorrow, we’re going to finish off with a sultry guest post talking about what guys think and really want to hear (unless I chicken out between now and then). And the discussion that led to that post.
What Men LOVE to Hear
Okay, let’s get started. (I’m rubbing my hands together as I begin to type this.)
The first few are from random guy friends who prefer to stay anonymous.
1. “I sent the kids to mom’s house for the night.” (Wink, wink)
2. “I’m better with you.”
3. “Help yourself to the remote.” This one seemed to resonate with a few men. Control of the remote – fancy that!
4. “You’re my hero.” This one got a “Wow” from those I tested. That’s exactly the response I was looking for.
5. “You’re my rock.” This one came from a female friend who described her husband this way. It was so powerful I just guessed that guys would love to hear this.
6. “I want YOU.” This could be said in every shape of form from “Fancy a shag?” to “I want your body – NOW!” to, oh, just use your imagination.
From Dustin at Engaged Marriage:
7. “I really appreciate all of the hard work you do for our family.” I don’t think we should not underestimate the importance of this one. Our men work hard for our family. Gratitude, out loud, is sometimes overlooked.
8. “I can’t wait to be alone with you tonight after the kids go bed.” Same theme. Bedroom one.
9. “Why don’t you go golfing on Saturday and enjoy some time with your friends?” Yes, guys need their guy time like we need our girl time.
10. “Let’s have a beer and watch the Cardinals game tonight.”
From Tony at OneExtraordinaryMarriage:
11. “For sexual intimacy one of my favorites is ‘I’m going commando.’ That’s all I need to know.”
From Corey at SimpleMarriage
12. “I want you.” This came up twice. Could have many meanings, know what I mean?
13. “Thank you.”
14. “The kids are gone all weekend.” Hmmm… the kids at mom’s or being away for a night seems to be a consistent theme among the men. Wonder what that means? Kidding. I’m not even that stupid.
15. “And on a slightly different path: ‘To speak well of me to others.’” This is really important.
From Aussie Locust, a spectacular reader and helper. His new site is at splaton.com.
16. “No, I agree – I think we do need the larger plasma screen TV.” Ahhh, men and their machines…
17. “I hope you don’t freak out at the credit card bill – I went a little crazy at the lingerie shop today.” This just gets them wondering. I love it!
18. “No, really, you watch whatever show you like. I don’t mind.”
19. “Then I realised I already own enough tops and shoes – so I left the shop and just brought a coffee instead.” Interesting how this one contrasts sharply with the lingerie one – seems to me that lingerie has no budget whereas mundane shoes and clothing – well, that’s another matter.
20. “I miss you when you’re not here.” It says that you are thinking about him a lot.
21. “Thank you for being you, and being with me.”
22. “I’ve booked us in for a weekend away. No kids, just us.” This is the third time this one has cropped up.
23. “I took a trip to that little winery we know, and picked up a bottle of…..” This just gets them wondering where that bottle of wine will lead, don’t you think?
When reviewing this list, it’s amazing how many of them deal with the BIG topic. The rest are a combination of gratitude for hard work, compliments for just being great, and approval of or suggestions of activities or toys they love or want control of (the remote).
Guys, this is your chance to chime in here… what did we miss? You share with us, and who knows? Maybe this will become a regular part of your other’s vocabulary.
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I think one of the greatest things we could hear from our wives on a regular basis is, “I appreciate you!”. They’re three little words that would really resonate with us and make us feel connected.
Another great thing we’d love to hear from our wives is, “Honey, I don’t mind telling you for the 362nd time to _____”. Maybe we need a drawing or something. You know we’re visual!
What guys want to hear from wives are the top three daily things we could do to put a smile on their face. A happy wife is a happy husband.
“Thank You” is not used nearly enough… I know of a couple marriages that could have been saved if they had just realized these two words sooner… It’s sad – the feeling of not being appreciated leads to no longer being willing to do the things that they would like to be thanked for… which then leads to anger about “why don’t they do those things anymore?” It’s so simple, but sometimes falls away so easily…
Once in a while I’ll tell The Husband, “I have a crush on you.”
It’s so innocent but hot at the same time, haha.
What a great reminder. Men want to know that we ADORE them.
I think a lot of men want to be needed too…
Bodily, soulfully, emotionally…
Needed and appreciated.
But I’m no expert…
We really do, Kristy.
I think that’s common to both lists for male and female – they all fall in to two borad categories:
1) Appreciation, or validation, of your partner; and
2) Rexpressing your desire for them, either emotionally or sexually
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As a side note, though, I did wonder about the “cleaning the bathroom” one – the girls all say it’s a sexy thing, but isn’t it also saying “You’re a bad housekeeper.”
Aussie Locust,
Thanks for the comment. No, “I cleaned the bathroom” has nothing to do with being a bad housekeeper. It means that you have a lot to do and your husband just took one of the dirtiest jobs off your hands, if only for this week. Get it now. As is normal, what you say as a man has nothing to do with how it’s interpreted. That’s how we keep guys on their toes…
Sarah
Oh yes, you ladies certainly keep us guessing!
I guess it’s all part of your charm and mystery.
#9 would make a guy wonder why you’re trying to get rid of him.
#10 is assuming that your man is a sports nut. Personally I’d enjoy watching paint dry as much as I would to watch “the game”.
#11 is not a turn on. For God’s sake wear some underwear, just no granny panties.
#17 would piss me off. Lingerie is way over rated and some of it is actually a turn off.
Stephen,
Thanks for stopping by. I think that the point of these, like most other comments, is that they have to be tailored for the man in question. To each his own. These are just some of the responses. I agree that there are plenty of men who don’t like sports, but they may like something else. This list is not meant to be something that works in every way for every guy.
Sarah
On the flip side, check out the book “P*rn for Women” (I don’t want to attract spammers). It’s not what you think. It’s a series of photos of hot , fully clothed men, doing things like vacuuming and saying “what else can I do for you”, or similar. It is hilarious, but it gets to the point of what turns women on.
HoHumMum, you may want to check this web comic about that: http://xkcd.com/714/