Giveaway Wednesday – $35 gc to Target
Our goal is to treat our community to fun ways to treat themselves.
Update: the winner of the $35 gc to Target is #281, Sarah Cordeiro
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This week’s giveaway is a $35 gc to Target. There’s a question we want to get answers to.
First, our winner from our last giveaway to Amazon is Glenda. I have sent you an email.
The Rules
To enter, please answer the following question.
In a long term relationship, when things have been bad for a while, what have you or your other done to turn things around?
You may enter up to three times, with each entry being a separate answer. They can be a word, a sentence or a page. The goal is that we all learn here (and if that’s the case, we’ll all win).
Each answer will be given a number in the order in which they are received. The winner will be chosen randomly by random.org.
Contest runs from this posting to Tuesday, June 1, 2010 at 6pm cst. Anyone 18+ can enter (although if you live outside of the US, we can come up with something more appropriate for where you are, like an Amazon card of equal value). Winner announced the 5th at 10am cst June 2, 2010.
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46. TAKE A WALK AND TALK TO YOURSELF
47. Spend lots of time just talking about each other. It seems to draw you closer.
48. Go on a romantic weekend away.
49. We usually give each other space for awhile and then talk it out.
50. Taking some time apart helped in my last relationship. Absence made the heart grow fonder and it helped up both to realize what was wrong in our relationship and what we needed to do to fix it.
51. i dont have much experience with this as my husband and i have a really great relationship, but i suppose we have periods of time where we are bickering a lot. sometimes it helps us to just get away – even for a night out or a trip into the city (we live in jersey about an hour from nyc). do something different together that would bring you together – a new adventure or take a risk together. hope it gets better for you – whatever it is!
52. Just take each new day at a time. Pretty soon that problem will be forgotten as new problems take it’s place.
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53. Each day is a new day, and old arguments are forgotten
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54. Just let things slide
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55. Intimate talks and long walks always work for us
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56. I have had few times that things were not that good with DH, We simply say sorry and hug. It makes things much better
57. Look back in the past when things were good and recreate them moments.
58. I recall a time when I was not happy with a relation with one of my DH’s collegue at work. It could have been simply jealousy. That day, I saw flowers on my bed with my favorite chocolate. It turned things around!!
59. Try laughter, watch funny movies, read jokes aloud to each other, lighten up.
60. Get away for a weekend together in a quiet, romantic place.
61. Cook his favorite meal, do a little pampering, try to get to the root of what the problem is.
62. Get divorced!
I have no problems or issues in my second marriage. Everyday is like a honeymoon.
63. You need to have a conversation where both people are openly and honestly expressing their feelings, and listening (without interrupting) when their partner does the same.
64. Reconnect with one another by planning a romantic trip.
65. I think what helps me is taking a step back from the situation and looking at what I personally can improve and then work on that. Its so easy to focus on the other person and what they are doing wrong when we should be looking inward
66. I think another helpful thing to do is to get an outside point of view. I prefer to see a therapist, but if that doesn’t work for you, someone who you and your partner both mutually respect may be able to help
67. I think if you develop a relationship with God or whoever you believe in will help you when things get hard because it will give you somewhere to find strength when all seems lost.
68. Get some alone time, one-on-one, no kids… and reconnect!!
69. I could do some damage with this
70. Read and actively do and consider the book/workbook “Love Dare”. By doing creative, thoughtful and loving things for your spouse, they become more appreciated and loved. In turn, they will show that appreciation and love. This book can do amazing things.
71. Give each other plenty of room and then talk things through
72. Gone out to dinner and talked. Any relationship should have communication.
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73. When my husband and I fight, we give each other time and space and talk about it later.
74. Talk! If things are going bad the only way to fix it is express where you think things are heading and how to fix it.
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75. Communication and being supportive of your SO is the best thing that you can do. It’s too easy to turn on each other when the going gets tough, but that is when you need to be truly united.
76. Me and my wife both tend to be “bottlers”. We hold things in. What works for us is that when one of is ready to talk, the other listens and we deal with the issue. Sometimes that means the listener has to save their issue for another day.
Little things will trigger the talking.
77. We have gone away for the weekend without the kids, works like a charm!
Thanks for the chance.
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78. THERAPY, THERAPY, THERAPY.
79. We take a break to calm down, then we have a long honest talk about everything we are honestly thinking and felling
80. I any relationship, it is important to give the other person breathing room. Thanks!
81. Get away on a vacation.
When its just you two things work out in the end…
Then again, one time I just up and left him
82. Social Networking Platform
I’ve suprised my wife with a nice romantic dinner, then we’ve just relaxed at home and had a nice night of tv.
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83. I try to put myself in his place and imagine what he is thinking and feeling, which helps me to understand his actions, and makes me not be so critical of them.
84. Took time to get away from all the everyday life stuff (not far, just away) and spend time with each other again.
85. We usually don’t let our problems exacerbate to the point where we’re mad for a long time. Generally within a night everything has been worked out and we’re right back to the way we were.
86. I take a look at our son and think about how our discord affects him and then I put whatever is wrong to bed. His happiness is worth more than a few minutes of drama.
87. Date night. Get away from work, kids, distractions. Let it be all about the two of you
88. Go to counseling
89. Deeply talking things over really helps…even if there is a lot of crying/arguing involved, sometimes that’s what it takes
90. Trying going on a few date nights together and spending some quality time Re-getting to know each other
91. WHEN WE HAVE HARD TIMES WE TALK THINGS OUT
92. We talk about the things we love about each other instead of complaining about the things that bother us. This helps us to discuss what is really bothering us when we realize that at the heart of all of this arguing are two people who love each other still.
93. Talk things out and move on.
94. We’ve learned that paraphrasing eachother when having “discussions” helps us best understand the other’s pov.
95. Go away on a vacation.
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