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The Rules
In order to enter to win the $30 gc to Amazon, please answer the following question:
What advice would you give to a friend/cousin/daughter/son about marriage? This can be humorous or serious advice.
You may enter up to three times, with each entry being a separate answer. They can be a word, a sentence or a page. The goal is that we all learn here (and if that’s the case, we’ll all win).
Each answer will be given a number in the order in which they are received. The winner will be chosen by random.org.
Contest runs from this posting to Tuesday, August 3, 2010 at 6pm cst. Anyone 18+ can enter. Winner announced at 10am cst August 4, 2010.
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Don’t go to bed angry. Always kiss goodnight.
Deborah
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If your husband offers the help with the housework. Gladly accept. Don’t complain about his way of doing it. The point is that it is getting done and he is happily helping.
Deborah
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Be the one he is hearing these words from:
“How’s my strong man today?”
“Hello, Handsome!”
Deborah
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I will anxiously await all of these answers, since I’m getting married on Saturday!
5. The advice I would give about marriage is to communicate and compromise. You can’t get your way on everything.
The best piece of advice I know is: Remember that you & your spouse are always a team. Keeping that in mind in every up & down keeps me pointed in the right direction.
My advice is that you must learn to compromise and not be selfish. You also can’t change the person so don’t waste energy trying.
Just live in sin when you break up you dont have all the legal problems!!!!!!!!!
Decide who gets which side of the bed before you get married. This was our first fight.lol.
10. Run away…as fast as you can!
My advice would be to always put each other first and remember that you are both each others best friend and always should treat each other as such.
Thanks so much
rickpeggysmith(at)aol(dot)com
I’m not married, but I would say: It’s not the end, and it’s not going to be easy. You have to work at it to make it great.
And also that intimacy, both emotional and physical, is important and shouldn’t be neglected.
And lastly, don’t forget how to have fun together. A bit of stupidity, like pillow fights or tickling matches, is good for the soul.
15. make time for fun no matter how low the bidget is or how busy you become
think twice before I do- make sure its love between the two
Marriage won’t work without communication. You can avoid so many fights when you listen to one another.
Do something kind to your mate and they will reciprocate by doing something kind back to you. You can’t expect them to do everything for you when you do nothing.
You both are responsible for the household chores.
Be honest when it comes to $
20. Respect your spouse.
The grass isn’t greener on the other side, its green where you water it.
Marriage takes work from both sides. Realize that it won’t be all rosy but if you are willing to work at it, the rewards will be great. During the bad times try to remember what it was that brought you together in the first place.
Date for a long time before marriage!
Don’t do all the housework and cooking yourself, because if you do that will never change
25. Dont get into debt!!
Sex is an important thing in a man’s life, be prepared and never say no!
Always Look at your partners good characters and try to ignore the bad ones as much as you can and just do not think about them. It will make your life more pleasent
And lastly, you and him are now ONE. Everything has to be shared , good and bad!
Always show appreciation even for the little things. If people aren’t appreciated they will stop doing for you and resentment will grow. This is true in any relationship.
30. I have learned a lot about this topic the hard way. I actually have two critical pieces of advice: BEFORE you get married, make sure the person you marry is someone you would choose for a friend. Then after you get married, make sure you work together as a team. I have found that everything else will fall into place if you consider these two items first.
Ah, I see we can enter three times. And I do have a couple more pieces of advice. A marriage runs a lot more smoothly if you share certain core values with your partner–for instance, religious, political, and sexual standards. You may be able to stay together if you differ on these things, but it will be a rocky ride.
My third comment is that you should work out your financial arrangements in some detail before marriage. Fights over money break up an amazing number of marriages.
It can be wonderful but you may have to work at it sometimes!!! Nothing good comes easy!!!
When your wife/daughter/girlfriend asks “How do I look?” remember the old saying “A person who says what he is really thinking, is a person who says what he thinks without thinking”.
35. Marriage is hard, but always stick together and never ever bring up the word, Divorce.
Don’t get married unless you’ve lived together for a LONG time first. The hardest part of marriage is living together and tolerating each other.
If you’ve been living together, marriage isn’t scary – you won’t change afterwards, it won’t make things better OR worse. Don’t get married to save a relationship.
Don’t rush – marriage isn’t something you NEED to do. Divorce is huge, it’s life changing, it’s soul crushing. Do not get married with the thought that divorce is always an option – it should NOT be an option unless you’re in an abusive situation. Marriage is meant to be the rest of your life, don’t take it lightly.
Discuss all future plans before you tie the knot
40. Don’t complain about the little things
Don’t live with your parents, or in a one room apartment. haha. We’re still going strong after 2 years like that, but it’s not for everyone.
i would say to learn the art of compromise as you will need it!
i would say to make sure and set time for spending alone with each other no matter how busy you are
i would say to make sure that you treat each other as equals!
45. My best advice from someone happily married 38 yrs. is to always thank him or her when they do something nice for you. You’d thank a friend, so it’s more important to thank your special someone.
My husband and I just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary, and we still love each other and are still best friends. But we worked at it. I think the most important consideration is learning how to compromise. Do you want to always be right? Or do you want to get along? When we have an issue that is REALLY important to one of us, we say “This is the hill I am willing to die on!” and the other one always backs off. We respect each other and treat each other politely. And we know that we always have each other’s backs.
Never go to bed angry!!
Thanks for the chance.
mogrill@comcast.net
I’m not married… So I wouldn’t be giving out advice on it. But I would say that you should always try to understand eachothers points of view, be kind, and have fun.
I would also say… Always compliment eachother, say nice things to eachother, and just realize that this person loves you and that you love him/her. When you take a moment to realize what you have, you should be thankful and give them lots of hugs and kisses. =] Enjoy life and work through problems together.
50. The last thing I would say, is that don’t expect your significant other to do things the way YOU would do things. They are their own unique person, so don’t take yourself too seriously and just accept them for who they are. Don’t let little things bother you. Just focus on the important things in life. Don’t fight about stupid things, just talk calmly when there are issues. Be playful and fun. Never lose that!