Reader Mondays – Simply a Great Date Night Story
Here’s a story that says it all. It came from one of our best and most prolific commenters, @FroggiePrinceMom on Twitter. She posted this comment on our Keeping Romance post and we thought it was so good that we had to share it.
“We have a (neurologically) special-needs son. I’m physically disabled. My husband has an irregular work schedule. Our finances are still in medical debt recovery. We’ve convinced capable babysitters to do us a favor three times in our son’s almost five years, the last time two and a half years ago. None of these make for a lot of what might traditionally be thought of as “date nights”, as venues for our romance.
And yet, we’ve still got it going on. On a random night, my hubby might go upstairs to ready our son’s room for bedtime, and call my cell from his while he’s up there. He’ll ask me if I have any plans for a little later that night, ask me out on a date to “a nice little place he knows (our kitchen) that serves great [whatever kind of] food.” After we have our son down, he’ll let me know he’d warmed the bathroom and prepared a hot bath for me with scented oils I like — I can soak away some of the day’s aches and pains before getting ready for our “date” while he cooks. By the time I come down there’s a special dinner, candles, music, the nice dishes and goblets with sparkling grape juice we drink instead of wine. He’ll be dressed up nicely too. It goes onwards from there, I assure you. And if there’s not enough time or energy for much beyond the dinner part of our date, well, he might still “walk me home”…take a walk around the house just to look up at the stars, before a kiss at the door, and stepping in.
Maybe we’ll just make popcorn, watch a movie we picked from the library, and have a tickle fight.
Maybe I’ll leave little lovenotes and suggestive hints in his voicemail, his wallet, his lunch that he brings to work, and if he’s geting home after kiddo’s already in bed, I might already be…waiting for him.
Maybe the plans are more elaborate, and involve getting, and/or preparing, what extra little things we can. And maybe we just end up snuggled on the couch talking about our long love story together, for no other reason than the fact that just then, there’s nothing stopping us.
I’m not saying it wouldn’t be nice to be able to actually go out, or have a few more occasions of going all-out. But there’s always SOME way to make a little more romance, from what you’ve already got.”
See what I mean? Have any other ideas? Add yours below. If it’s really helpful or insightful, maybe we’ll feature it in a future Reader Monday post.
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threesome? these sound heavenly.
So cute
I love the idea of date nights. My friend and her hubby just had twin baby girls, and just finally had their first date night, they appreciated the time together so much.
Followed your tweet here. The reader comment was extraordinary! I have to agree wholeheartedly too. Hubs and I do try to have date nights or date half-day or date hour, whatever we can get. I would also suggest keeping candles ready to go in the bedroom.