Yes, That Size (Penis Size)!
Men, this post is for you. A man asked us if penis size does matter from a female perspective. I guess that this is a major question for some (okay, a lot of) guys. This gentleman asked the Anonymous8 for our opinion on the matter (why, I don’t know, but it certainly brought up interesting discussion). So we consulted each other, consulted women outside of our immediate group, and went to our friend, Randy Fagin MD, a Board Certified Urologist (his LinkedIn and Twitter links for complete bio), to get the answer. And, as usual, the answer isn’t what we expected.
First, here’s the answer from the Anonymous8. After taking an internal poll, the results were kind of interesting. Some of us have not had enough, ummmm, experience with variety, to comment. Others remembered experiences from their college days. Two of the ladies told me at different times during the night exactly the same thing – separately – if it is too long, and it hits the cervix during intercourse, it hurts. Also, width/girth is apparently more important than length, and if the girth is not wide enough, then you really don’t feel anything.
Second, we consulted with other friends to confirm this, and here is what they said. Yes, size does matter, but length is less important than girth. If a penis is not that long, as long as it is wide enough, then it’s fine. However, if it is too short, you won’t feel anything, supposedly. Hmmmm….. I’m beginning to see a pattern.
Finally, we asked the expert in this matter, Dr. Randy Fagin, and his answer shed light on why girth is so important.
“Here is the skinny on penis size (ha!). An enormous penis is only an asset to a guy if he is planning a career in porn. Remember ladies, in its resting state, the walls of the vagina are in contact with one another and can hold snug around a tampon or it can stretch to deliver a baby. Researchers Masters & Johnson observed 10,000 complete cycles of sexual response and concluded that penis length does not impact female sexual satisfaction. (One moment to interrupt. It’s Sarah again. Wow! Did you read that?) This does not tell the whole story. Follow up research as recent as 2000 has shown that girth, NOT length, can be the determining factor in female sexual satisfaction.”
What About Those Penis Enhancement Pills?
Now, to save you thousands of dollars (after all, what are friends for), Dr. Randy Fagin clarifies things.
“Guys, on penile length enhancement pills and surgeries PLEASE remember, you are born with what you are born with. Medicine like viagra and cialis can improve blood flow and in doing so can maximize what you’ve got. However, there is no surgery or medicine that will give you a normal looking, functioning unit that is yours only bigger…..no matter what the ads say.
But let’s put this into perspective with some data from the Social Organization of Sexuality which shows that 75% of men have an orgasm during intercourse while only 28.6% of women do. To borrow a phrase from Times writer Suzi Godson this means that ’men need to spend less time worrying about the size of their engine and more time searching for the ignition.’”
Therefore, guys, don’t worry too much. If you please your other, who cares about size?
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Wow, actually kinda surprised that nobody has yet to comment on this one yet!
Honestly I think this is one of the lamest things about us guys. Perhaps society has done it to us, perhaps we did it to ourselves way back in junior high, perhaps it was an ex girlfriend, or maybe we are just that lame.
No matter where this insecurity came from, for the Doc, it doesn’t matter what you say about statistics or magic pills.
For the ladies, it doesn’t matter what you say about whether size matters or not, the bottom line is that penile size is a mans kryptonite.
Perhaps it comes from the fact that a mans orgasm is a given and a woman’s isn’t. Perhaps it’s because for every 100 women that say size doesn’t matter, another 100 say it most definitely does. Whatever the reason, men suffer from penis envy much like women do from breast envy. The main difference being that women can do something about it and men really cannot.
Honestly, I think it’s stupid and childish and men need to get over it. You have what you were given, figure out how to use the damn thing and I can pretty much guarantee you that if you have to peel a woman off the ceiling after sex your size won’t matter at all, at least not to her.
Men: Each woman is different, it will take you being adult enough to find out what she likes, how you can help make her sexual experience with you rewarding (and much of that may not have everything to do with the sex itself) and don’t be afraid to talk about it. Yes, it may hurt your ego a bit to take advice from your lover about how you do it, but in the long run you may end up with a much healthier relationship and improved self esteem.
I could go on writing forever on this topic because I think it’s completely dumb that men are so insecure about this that a company like Extenze can make enough money on your insecurities that they can sponsor Nascar. Get over it!
Andrew,
Thanks for being our first – comment, that is, on this post. All well said. I agree with you, especially when you say the following, “You have what you were given, figure out how to use the damn thing and I can pretty much guarantee you that if you have to peel a woman off the ceiling after sex your size won’t matter at all, at least not to her.” Perfect. Didn’t know about Extenze, either. Interesting. And that they sponsor Nascar? Hmmm….
Sarah
Yes Sarah, Extenze is a “male enhancement” company pushing what amounts to sugar pills to guys with low self esteem. They make enough money on these damn things to be a full on Nascar sponsor, they now have Jimmy Johnson as their spokesperson as well.
This is really lame guys! lol
men suffer from penis envy
I’ll be 41 next month and I have never heard a man say that. I am not saying that they don’t or it hasn’t happened, but never in my circle of friends.
Who knows, maybe the conversation gets cut short.
Now that you mention it, Jack, why is this even an issue? Why did someone ask us about it? Why is there an entire industry built around it? Seriously, there are a lot of people out there making money on this issue. Where did it come from?
Now that you mention it, Jack, why is this even an issue? Why did someone ask us about it? Why is there an entire industry built around it? Seriously, there are a lot of people out there making money on this issue. Where did it come from?
Yes, size does matter, but so do other things. Being a “good, giving, and game” lover can make up for a lot.
“Perhaps society has done it to us, perhaps we did it to ourselves way back in junior high, perhaps it was an ex girlfriend, or maybe we are just that lame.”
I think, to some extent, we (as a gender) did it to ourselves, years ago.
The stage by stage logic is that, historically, men have considered themselves superior to women. We could vote, own land, ride off to war, that sort of thing.
Being a man was a pretty good thing to be, really. And the obvious difference between men and women is that men have a penis.
So, it stands to reason that the bigger yours is, you must be “more of a man”.
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Hopefully, though, nowadays we know better.
Interesting and logical thinking, Aussie Locust.
Penis size is akin to what kind of car you drive, how big your house is and how fat your wallet is. It is engrained in us by TV, Movies, and magazines (how many Cosmos have some articles about size?). Shows like “Sex and the City” have only engendered the same sentiment among the sexes. The key is honesty with your partner, willingness to engage in honest conversation about expectations, and be willing to give yourself to your lover as much as possible, points mentioned by others above. Admittedly, I would consider myself to be mid range as far as penile size, but I have learned what I can and cannot do, and accommodate my wife in many other ways so that we both are satisfied. The fact that many treat the subject of sex as taboo does not help in any way. Willingness to learn and experiment will only make it better.
Danny,
Thanks for the comment and willingness to open up and be frank about it. All good points.
Sarah
Okay. So, without oversharing (something I am usually guilty of) – I would like to say this… I agree. Size DOES matter. But there are two levels involved. They physical size of your partner’s “manly-bits” only satisfies the physical side of you. What about the emotional side of things? If you have a patient, loyal, trustworthy partner – no matter the size, you’ll find satisfaction!
That said… I am fortunate that the man I married satisfies both levels far more than any previous partners that I’ve had. So… Yay for me… Right?
Just had to add my two cents. I was involved in a lengthy “research” project on this subject in college and have “experienced” units from all ends of the spectrum. From my analysis, the following are what’s most important:
Girth: wider is definitely better
Length: too long = pain, too short = can’t change positions without disconnection, which can be annoying and not as enjoyable
My ideal “unit”: 6-7 inches, not on the skinny side
And hey, there’s good news: that’s average for most guys!