Intimacy in Marriage: How A Game Can Change All The Rules
This week’s Fun Tip Tuesdays idea originates from a story a friend of mine told me. She and her husband have a solid and active intimate life, and she, as a personal policy, tries hard not to turn him down when he is interested. So, after one particularly long day, she is beat and he is, of course, interested. She did not want to say no, but seeing her exhaustion, he says, “I’ll give you an out. If you beat me at backgammon, you’re done for the night. If I win, you’re mine.” Now, this friend is competitive and this is an offer she couldn’t refuse. Plus, the concept of playing a game with her husband woke her up and gave her more energy.
Out came the backgammon set. A healthy competitive game ensued. He really wanted to win. He did. Now this is where I let your imagination take over, but I bet you that they both ended up winning.
So, I tell this story to another friend. ”Oh, yeah, I once played backgammon for intimacy as well.”
Where have I been? I’m beginning to feel really out of it.
Now, here is the thought. This can extend to just about any game, right? Chess, Othello, Ping Pong – really, any good two player game.
If you have any thoughts or ideas, the space below is yours.
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We’ve played games before where the winner takes all, if you get my meaning! Always great fun. Great tips.
I honestly think knowing my luck he’d insist on playing “Risk” that strategy game? And I’d fall asleep.
But I do like this idea … maybe playing a game of Old Maid or oooh Monopoly. I see a game night in my future.
I agree. Risk is a strategy game that would not work in this area. Too much time. And sleep is not the goal. Look for quick two player games. Old Maid, gin rummy, and other card games work, too, I would think.
We did a wii marathon on New Year’s Eve where each time one of us lost he would have to discard an article of clothing. My husband is especially good at the wii so I had to give myself a bit of an edge with some inconspicuous layers..
Gee, and I felt so TRADITIONAL when we played strip poker…
That is hilarious.
Great idea and a nice way to compromise.