FTT – Secret Codes

20. Apr, 2010 Categories: Fun Tip Tuesdays by Sarah Baron 5 Comments

Develop Your Own Codes

Today’s Fun Tip Tuesdays tip is about developing your own secret code with your other. Why? So you can quietly hint about what you want or when you want intimacy in marriage. The best way to describe this is with examples. Here are several we can think of:

1. The bowler hat. Assign an obscure word an extra meaning. For example, let’s say the words “bowler hat” mean “I’m in the mood. Can’t wait until we’re alone together.” Imagine the jokes that could follow. At the dinner table, “Honey, the funniest thing happened today. I saw a man with a bowler hat at the grocery store.” “Really?” Next thing you know, one of you purchases the other a bowler hat to wear – with nothing else.

The word or phrase could also be anything – really – like pistachio (“goodness, I’m in the mood for some pistachios – any in the pantry?”), artichoke (“are artichokes in season yet?), ukelele (“you know, I think your great uncle Bob played the ukelele”), or kangaroo (“I went to the store today and almost bought junior a toy kangaroo but chose a fire engine instead”). You could have a lot of fun with slightly obscure words that become your own private jokes. Heck, you could have a dictionary’s worth of words or phrases with extra meanings.

2. Non-verbal cues. For the woman, maybe you could wear a particular nightie when in the mood and walk by him. For a guy, it could be a single rose he brings home from work or that he leaves on her nightstand. Or maybe you could turn your favorite picture upside down. (I can picture a husband checking out that picture every evening when he walks by the living room. Or, for that matter, a wife doing the same thing.) So, here, you’re saying what you want with a non-verbal signal.

3. Written codes. If you want to really go full force, write notes in code. Really. Codes aren’t just for kids or army generals. For example, maybe a is b and b is c and c is d, etc. In which case “mpwf” is love. The anticipation of finding the message would make it all fun. The effort speaks wonders as well. Plus, it keeps little readers from figuring everything out.

That’s what this is about – the power of communication and signals, with words or without – that allows you to create your own intimate form of communication – shared only by 2.

As usual, feel free to share any codes or signals you share if they can be helpful. If they are really good, we’ll post them on Reader Mondays.

Signing out,

The Ladies of BOPOZNPVT9.